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Sometimes Things Don’t Work Out…

Kimberly — Mon, 17 May 2021 13:00:10 +0000

As you may know, I tried to do a reading marathon this weekend. Much to my utter determination, it did not pan out as planned. And that’s okay. I really wanted to finish two books this weekend (I had four that I should have finished), but it was just not going to happen. Despite popular belief, compared to some people, I’m actually a slow reader, and I should have known from the start that I wasn’t going to be able to finish everything on my list. And that’s okay. You know what I did instead of finishing three books? I got cocktails with my friends. I spent time with my boyfriend. I had a game night with a new connection. I celebrated a friend’s birthday and made memories. Sometimes we don’t get everything on our to-do list done. And that’s okay. Sometimes we are too busy living life and spending time with the ones we love to accomplish trivial goals. Because that’s what this weekend was – it was a trivial goal. It wasn’t going to change my life. It wasn’t going to advance my career. It wasn’t going to impact anyone beyond myself. So it’s okay. It’s okay to prioritize friendships and personal connection over goals. It’s okay to set aside your laundry pile for a day to make memories. It’s okay to have fun every once in awhile – shirk your responsibilities for a day or two. Life will keep going. I promise, it’s okay.

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Tips for Taking on the Real World After Graduating College

Kimberly — Wed, 12 May 2021 13:00:33 +0000

So, you’re graduating college? Don’t worry. It’s going to be okay. Graduating from college can be one of the best, and scariest, experience of your life. There’s no sugar-coating it — entering the real world is scary. But it’s not impossible. I’ve survived four year — FOUR YEARS — in the “real world,” and while it doesn’t get any less scary, it does, in some ways, get a little bit easier. I know my experience is vastly different from those graduating now — in the midst of a pandemic — but I feel like I still have some advice I can impart. Let’s get started! one | focus on where you are I didn’t have a job lined up when I graduated college. When I got a job, it was far from the dream. I moved home for three months before moving to Nashville. Nothing was what I had planned, and that’s okay. I can’t say I focused on where I was, but I urge you to do so. If you’re home, enjoy it. If you’re starting a new job, thrive in it. Focus on where you are instead of looking back or looking forward, and you’re sure to be doing okay. two | shut up, and listen If you are lucky enough to be in rooms with people that are more knowledgable than you, please shut up and listen. Don’t try to prove yourself. Don’t try to shine. Listen and learn. Before you know it, you’ll have valuable contributions to give, but for now, I promise, it’s better to listen. three | be pro-active rather than re-active You might feel like life keeps happening to you, like you’re losing control? I get it. Something that really helped me was focusing on what I could control. I made routines I loved, I reached out to people to make connections, and I learned as much as I could. four | have fun I promise, having fun didn’t end when you walked across the stage. You can still throw parties, you can still hang out with friends, and you can still make memories to last a lifetime. five | do something for yourself every morning/night Whether you’re a morning or a night person, do something for yourself every day. For me, that’s reading. For other people, that’s crocheting or going to the gym or walking their dog. If you make time for the things you love, you’re bound to find joy in your life. six | stop looking back The minute I stopped wanting to go back to college was the minute I started to make a life for myself in Nashville. I got more involved with non-profit work, I worked harder at my job, and I made deeper friendships. That doesn’t mean I’m not friends with my college friends anymore, I am, but I’ve also made my life in Nashville a bigger priority than looking back on my memories wishing for what could have been. seven | make a friend everywhere you go Your network is almost more important than your resumé. With every job I’ve gotten, it’s always been the people I’ve known that have opened the door. Be kind, don’t burn bridges, and make a new friend wherever you go, and you’ll be golden. eight | focus on gaining experience I mentioned it before, but when I first moved to Nashville, I wasn’t doing much in communications. I was frustrated and lost, but I decided to channel my energy into learning more every day. I read books, worked on my blog, and got involved in a non-profit where I could learn about and practice marketing. If you’re not getting the experience you want, go and find it. nine | take your vacation days There is nothing honorable about working without taking a break. Your company gives you vacation days for a reason – take them. Refuel, recharge, and get back at it after you take a few days for yourself. ten | it get’s better I know everything feels like a mess right now. I promise, it will get better. Happy adventuring, Kimberly

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The Best Advice I’ve Ever Gotten

Kimberly — Wed, 24 Feb 2021 14:00:58 +0000

One of my friends asked me the other day if I’ve always been as confident as I am now. My question is, am I really that confident? For the average 26 year old, I feel like I’ve faced a lot of life. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been extremely fortunate to always have a roof over my head and food on the table, but I also learned at a very young age that the only person you’re guaranteed to have in this life is yourself, so I’ve worked really hard to love me and fight for me. I’ve heard a lot of amazing advice in my short time on this Earth, so let’s get started! one | it’s usually not about you When someone is being a little weird or texting a little differently than normal, it’s usually not about you. If your boss is being short and you can’t think of anything you’ve done wrong, it’s probably not you. People care so much less about you (in a good way, I promise) than you think they do. If someone around you is acting off, it’s probably because they are going through something at work or with a friend or family member and you’re just there to see it happen. Stop worrying so much, I promise it’s not usually you. two | you are responsible for your own happiness It is not on anyone to make sure you are having a good time in life. If you want to do something, make it happen. Of course, you can’t make someone else do something they don’t want to do, but for the most part, you’re in control of what you do and how you spend your time. So, make sure you’re doing things that bring you joy instead of waiting around for someone else to make sure it happens. three | everyone is the main character of their own story I love this narrative that you should have “main character” energy. I think that’s an awesome attitude to have about life, but don’t forget that everyone is their own main character. You are the main character in your own story, but sometimes, it’s important to be a supporting role for your friends and family. Everyone gets their moment to shine. four | show up and do the work I was listening to a speaker last night, and I had to include this tid-bit from him: “Half the work is in showing up.” I love that. He also presented spreadsheets with some activities for people to complete to achieve goals, and when someone asked if he would mind sharing those with the group he said, “Of course not. The magic isn’t in the worksheets, it’s in doing the work.” So much yes to that. You can have all the knowledge in front of you, but if you aren’t willing to act on that knowledge, you won’t get very far. five | listen & learn This was my mantra during my first year in Nashville. I joined a young professionals group, and I was very adamant that I wasn’t going to have an opinion for a few months, and I stuck to that. I listened to the people around me, I learned from experiences and listening to those conversations, and now, I’m a well-known leader in the organization three years later. When you’re in a room with people more knowledgable thank you, make sure you’re listening more than you’re speaking because you have no idea what you might learn. six | you don’t need to shout your dream from the rooftops With social media, it can feel like everyone is accomplishing all of their hopes and dreams, and telling everyone about it. I want to remind you that sometimes it’s okay to work away at something in silence. Set a goal for yourself, share it with a select group of people, and work for it. Not everyone needs to know everything you’re going after at all times. seven | forgive yourself for your past This is the hardest one, but it’s arguable the most important one. You can’t move forward and grow without forgiving your past self for your mistakes. I was in a toxic relationship all throughout college, and I let that boy get away with so much. Sometimes, I still wake up and beat myself up about it thinking, “I can’t believe you would ever let someone treat you like that. Why are you so stupid?” When I have these thoughts (two years post break-up and one year into a wonderful, new, healthy relationship), I have to actively forgive myself. In these moments, I say to myself, “You made a mistake. It’s okay. You learned from that mistake, and now, you know better.” eight | it’s all going to work out if you make it work out I don’t know what flip switched in my brain, but when I was halfway through my college career, I just decided one day that everything was going to work out. I knew I would put in the work to make everything work out, so it just was. I haven’t actively stressed out about a deadline since. Believe it’s going to work out and that you will put in the work, and I promise everything will be okay. nine | growth happens when you leave your comfort zone This is one I’m still working on and actively practicing this year. You can’t grow if you never try something new. If you never do something that scares you. Growth happens in the moments where you think you might fail. You either learn in the fall, or figure out how to fly. ten | everyone has a story This is arguably the most important piece of advice that I have to actively remind myself of every day. Everyone has gone through something – it may not seem like a big deal to you, but it is breaking or has already broken them. Their experiences are unique to them, and they feel just as life-shattering or wonderfully life-changing as any experiences you have had. When you’re interacting with people, especially people you think you know incredibly well, remember that you may not have the whole story. No one is one-dimensional. Everyone is facing some uphill battle. Treat those around you with kindness and compassion. Happy adventuring, Kimberly

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How to Treat Yo-Self This Valentine’s Day

Kimberly — Wed, 10 Feb 2021 14:00:12 +0000

Valentine’s Day is not just for lovers. Personally, whether I am single or in a relationship, I like to do something special for myself on this day each year. No one says you can’t buy yourself a nice card, write a little note of self-love in it, and indulge in a sweet treat by yourself on this day (or any day for that matter). I’ve got ten ideas on how you can show yourself some love this Valentine’s Day. Let’s get started! one | buy yourself the flowers Because why the heck not? Pop into Trader Joe’s and make a cheap bundle, or treat yourself to a special bouquet at a local flower shop. Who decided you needed a man to get something beautiful? two | indulge in something sweet I recommend a slice of red velvet cake or a box of fancy chocolates to stay with the spirit of the holiday. Want to take it up a notch? Bake some sweet treats for yourself and deliver a gift to your Galentines. three | plan a night of self-care Valentine’s Day is on a Sunday this year which makes it perfect for a whole night of hair masks, serums, detoxing, and more. Whatever makes you feel like your best self, practice that this year to show yourself some love. four | spend some extra time in the shower I take relatively quick showers (about 5 minutes), but when I feel like I need some extra love, there is nothing better than standing in the shower a little longer than normal. Maybe take an epsom salt bath if that’s your thing, but the point is just to indulge in something a little longer than you normally would. five | pop in your favorite rom-com Unless it’s going to make you unusually sad to watch a movie about love, watch a rom-com! Anything with Matthew McConaughey is sure to make you laugh. I would like to recommend How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, 10 Things I Hate About You, or To All the Boys I Loved Before. six | cuddle an animal If you don’t have your own pet, borrow a friend’s or make do with a stuffed animal. Hugging anything close always makes me feel safe. seven | read a good book You know this is always a tip from me. Whether it’s romantic or not, holidays are a perfect excuse to deviate from your norm and dedicate a whole day or afternoon to something you love, like reading. eight | cook yourself a nice meal Cook yourself something you wouldn’t normally take the time to cook. It’s just as important to treat yourself like a prize as it is to treat your significant other as such. If you don’t think you’re worth it, how will anyone else? (And you are worth it!) nine | get outside If you live somewhere where it’s not that cold, get outside! Take yourself to a picnic in the park or go on a day hike you’ve never been on before. Get your body outside to soak up some Vitamin D, and you won’t even remember it’s Valentine’s Day. ten | treat yo’self No one else is responsible for your happiness. Only you are. You want a new necklace (and you can afford it)? Treat yo’self. You want to eat a cupcake? Treat yo’self. You want to go out to dinner (or pick up a nice meal to eat at home)? Treat. Yo. Self. You don’t need anyone to do any of these things — so go out and enjoy! Happy adventuring, Kimberly

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How to Love Yourself When You Don’t Feel Like It

Kimberly — Wed, 19 Aug 2020 13:00:45 +0000

Sometimes, I am not my favorite person in the world. Sometimes, I hate who I am. Sometimes, I can’t stand being in my own mind. And, that’s okay. We all feel this way sometimes. Self-love is hard, but it’s worth practicing because we are the only us in this whole entire world. We are the only person who loves the way we love, who thinks the way we think, and who can change the world in our own unique way. Each and every person on this Earth is different, and if we aren’t going to love ourselves, who will? I’ve been struggling a lot lately with self-love. I’ll admit, it’s a lot easier for me to tell others to love themselves than to actually practice it myself. So, I’m sharing this as much for you as I am for me. Let’s get started. one | take a deep breath This obviously is not a cure-all, but reminding myself that I am a person who needs air to breathe, water to drink, and food to eat, sometimes also reminds me that I am just doing my best in this messed-up world we live in. Taking just five minutes to focus on my breathing helps pause the negative thoughts. Sometimes they go away completely after a short session, sometimes they come back, but it’s still a good place to start. two | self-reflect Journaling is my saving grace. Sometimes I can start a journal entry in the most negative headspace and by the end of it, I think I’m a queen. Journaling works as a kind of purge of all the negative self-talk that can take up precious space in your head. three | find some inspiration Instagram can be a really negative space if you let it, but it can also be a haven with all its inspirational quotes and artsy accounts. Personally, I love scrolling through, finding a particularly touching quote in the “Discover” section, and then, looking through all the similar posts. four | make a list Can’t stop thinking about why you suck so much? Make a list of everything you are thinking — yes, the negative stuff. Try and figure out why you’re thinking those things, and remind yourself that you’re probably being silly and no one else things those things. Now, make a list of all the nice things someone has ever said to you. Now, make a list of all the nice things you think about yourself. Even if that’s just, “I have good taste in bedsheets.” Start there, and let the list grow. five | remember, you’re not alone Everyone goes through this. No one loves themselves all the time. Reach out to a friend or family member and tell them how much they mean to you. It’s sure to brighten their day, and it might even brighten yours. Happy adventuring, Kimberly

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How to Be a Better Student

Kimberly — Mon, 26 Aug 2019 13:00:40 +0000

Happy belated move-in weekend, Elon! I can’t believe it’s been six (SIX) years since I stepped foot on my alma mater’s campus for my first day of school. If you would have told me on that day where I would be now, I never would have believed you. While I’m perfectly content being in the real world, I do think back from time-to-time on what it would be like to do school all over again. What would I do differently? The same? Everything happens for a reason, so I would never change anything about my experience, but I can impart some wisdom on the new kids on the block. Whether you’ve been in school for a couple of weeks, aren’t returning at all (hello adult life!), or just started back, this post is for you. All the lessons I learned that helped me be a better student also helped me a better person. Let’s get started. 1. Understand your priorities. Rule number one: Everyone has different priorities. We are not put on this Earth to judge people for their priorities, but to figure out our own. In college, some people will care more about going to parties than going to class, and some people will care more about going to class than going to parties — the sooner you accept this, the better. Whichever version of this situation you are, that’s great! Truly — live your best life. But, when you’ve partied too much, don’t get upset when you fail a test. And if you stayed in to study, don’t get mad that you’re left out of one of the inside jokes. You picked where you wanted to spend your time, and you have to deal with whatever consequences those may be. 2. Strive for balance, not perfection. We’ve all seen the meme about only picking two things and having a slew of options. You can’t always do everything perfectly, but you can do a lot of things really well. This comes back to prioritizing, too. Pick what’s important to you to do well, and then figure out where the rest can fit in. Maybe you do really well in your two upper-level classes, so your fun pottery class suffers a bit. Maybe you choose to stay in one night and get some sleep instead of going out for the third night in a row. Balance. Not perfection. Make it your mantra. I’m still learning this one, so I’ll keep it in the back of my mind as well. 3. Figure out what matters. I knew early on in my senior year of college that I wouldn’t be going to grad school immediately after undergrad, so guess what didn’t matter to me as much? Getting straight A’s. Believe it or not, no one really cares about your GPA or test scores in the real world. If you’re continuing your education (law school, becoming a doctor, etc), grades can matter, but for me, they didn’t. I ended up prioritizing extra-curricular involvement and my part-time job over getting straight A’s, and I’m doing just fine. Don’t get me wrong, I still did really well in school and graduated with honors, but I didn’t cry over a B like I would have in high school. If you’re the opposite and you need to get a great GPA, figure out what you can “let slip” to achieve your ultimate goals. 4. Get involved. Find a club, volunteer opportunity, or community activities to get involved in. The more plugged in to the community you’re a part of, the better you will feel. Despite being an introvert, feeling connected to people is one of my top priorities. Some would say I was overly involved while in college (it was the Elon way), but I’ve almost continued that into adulthood, and it’s been my saving grace. Being involved in something gives you something greater than just yourself to care about. 5. Have fun. I like to remind myself of this one a lot — it’s only life. What’s the worst thing that could happen if you let loose every once in a while? Grab coffee with a friend and talk about life. Throw your own birthday party (the best thing I did for myself my senior year). Drive three hours to see your favorite band in concert. Figure out what’s fun for you, and do it as much as you can. Happy adventuring, Kimberly

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Top 5 Tips to Help You Save Money

Kimberly — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 13:00:12 +0000

One of my goals of 2019 was to become an expert on my personal finances. A lot of that has had to do with finding a budget that works for me, and sticking with it. I’ve read a lot of personal finance books so far this year, but the best one I’ve read so far is I Will Teach You to be Rich. It’s basically a game plan of how to start saving money from paying off any debt you may have to investing in a Roth IRA. If you’re a money beginner like me, I highly recommend giving it a read. Money is one of our biggest stressors in life, and I know it’s something I strive to understand more and more each day. Saving money can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be. I’ve got five small tips to help you save money starting today. Let’s get started! 1. Don’t shop just because there’s a sale. This is my number one rule — just because something is on sale doesn’t mean you have to buy. Yes, you could be saving $40 off those shoes, or, you could save $100 by not buying something you don’t need in the first place. To avoid feeling like you have to shop because you know about a sale, I recommend unsubscribing from email lists from stores. This makes it easy to avoid temptation since it won’t always be at the top of your inbox. I also like to keep a list of things (specifically clothing) in my notes app that I know I want. If it’s not on the list, I don’t buy it, since I clearly never thought about it before seeing it online or in the store. 2. Buy travel-sized makeup. This is a funny little trick, but I started buying travel-sized mascara, and it’s been a life-changer for me. It lasts just as long as a normal tube of mascara because, let’s face it, mascara lasts forever but we are supposed to replace it every three months for hygiene’s sake. By buying the travel-sized tube, I’m saving money, and I’m treating my eyes better. I also buy travel-sized primer since I use such a tiny amount of that anyways. It typically lasts me around 3 or 4 months as well. I do this because I like medium-end makeup (think Two Faced and Smashbox), so by opting for travel-sized products from brands like this that last me months, I’m saving money. I don’t recommend this hack with makeup you use frequently like concealor or foundation. 3. Buy what you can in bulk. I’m talking about anything non-perishable. Don’t have a Costco membership? Me either, but my brother does! I also tend to stock up on things that don’t go bad (candles, hair scrunchies, etc) when I find them on sale. Again, these are things I need that I am buying, not just buying things because I’m getting a deal. Buying in bulk saves you from having to go to the store constantly, and it also typically saves you money since bulk items are discounted. 4. Skip the drinks. This may be easier said than done, but a huge way I save money is by not buying drinks when I go out with friends. I’m not a huge drinker anyways, but knowing that I can save around $7 per drink just by skipping the extra nonessential calories is huge to me. I still hang out with my friends, I just grab water instead. My wallet and my overall health thank me. 5. Pick your battles. You can’t win everything, so pick what you are and are not going to spend your money on. Personally, I know I can skip the drinks if I would rather spend that money on concert tickets. I also choose to spend $6 on coffee once a weekend to get more work done on a Sunday than I would if I stayed at home. We can’t all be perfect and only spend money on our needs, so pick what you want to spend your money on, and make that a priority. Also, if you go over budget, be kind to yourself. We all make mistakes. Try to implement more strategies the next go around to really stick to your spending limits. How do you save money? Let me know in the comments below. Happy adventuring, Kimberly

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The Good in Goodbye…

Kimberly — Wed, 03 Jul 2019 13:00:54 +0000

Before you start panicking, I’m not saying goodbye to blogging! I’m moving this week from the first and only home I’ve had in Nashville, and it’s got me thinking a lot about goodbyes. I’ve never been a fan of goodbyes, and unfortunately, I’ve had to say a lot of them in 2019. Some of them were harder than others, but I’d be lying if I didn’t say all of them were hard and still affecting me in some way or another today. The grief of a goodbye hits us at odd times — when we least expect it and definitely feel like we should be over it — but grief over a relationship, friendship, or death never truly leaves us. These goodbyes have been hard, but they’ve also taught me deep, life-changing lessons. 2019, even though it’s barely half-over, has been a huge year of growth, acceptance, and understanding for me, so I’m here to share just a few lessons from the goodbyes I’ve faced in this year alone. 1. You learn what’s been inside of you the whole time. I said goodbye to a friendship that had seen me through some of my toughest times in the last few years. I’m not going to get into details, but this friend and I parted ways not so amicably, and in those fights and tears I learned a lot about leaning on myself. For five years, I had them to lean on when times were tough — when I didn’t know which was up and which way was down — and without them in my life, I really had to look inside myself for that strength. And, surprise, I found it. It was hidden underneath a lot of layers of dependency, but I found it eventually, and I’m the better for it. It’s great to have people to lean on, but there’s nothing more empowering that understanding your inner strength. 2. You start saying “yes.” I talked a little bit about this in regards to losing my grandma earlier this year, but it’s true for some of the other goodbyes I’ve had to say as well. When it comes to my grandma, I started saying “yes” because I knew she would have wanted me to live a life I’m proud of — she would have wanted me to take advantage of every opportunity that came my way, and I still am. But, I also started saying “yes” because there wasn’t anything holding me back anymore. When you say goodbye to toxic people, you feel like you can breathe again. You can explore what makes you “you” without any restraint — whether that restraint was internal or external. Saying goodbye might sometimes mean saying “yes.” 3. You open yourself up to new experiences. I fell in love with my life in these last six months. Don’t get me wrong, it was a little rough there for a while after losing my grandma, but if I’m telling the truth, she helped me see everything life has to offer. Despite the fact that she lived a very long life (93 years on this Earth and you see some things, let me tell you), losing her was a reminder that life really is short, and you have to make every day worth it. So, try new things, experience the shit out of life. Figure out what you like, what you don’t like, who you like, who you can do without, and everything in between. Say yes to kayaking on the river and reading a book in the park. Go on that date you’ve been putting off for forever. Just go and live. That’s what life is for. Goodbyes are scary. Goodbyes are hard. You never expect them to be good, but look back on those goodbyes in three months, six months, a year, and you’ll see everything that goodbye led you to. Maybe you found your best friend because of it, or a new hobby, or a new place to live. Maybe, just maybe, you found your life in that goodbye. Happy adventuring, Kimberly

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The Truth About Graduating…

Kimberly — Wed, 22 May 2019 13:00:33 +0000

Two years in the real world down; a lifetime to go! This past Monday marked two years since I graduated from my dream school. It marked two years since saying goodbye to the safety and schedule of the educational system I’d been in since I was three years old. Two years since saying goodbye to mentors and friends that shaped me in inexplicable ways. On Friday, a whole new crop of seniors are graduating from my favorite place in the world, and I want to send some advice (albeit, unsolicited) their way. Let’s get started. Graduating is hard. Now, it will not be the hardest thing you do in your entire life, but at the time, it’s probably going to feel like it. You’re going to cry, you’re going to feel lost, you’re going to wish you could stay in college forever. And that’s okay. But remember, you’ve got this. Your university prepared you for whatever the real world has to throw at you. It gave you a fantastic education, it gave you shoulder’s to cry on, and it gave you a network of support and opportunities. Though you may not feel like it, you’ve really been preparing for this day since the very beginning. Graduating, and the feelings that come with it, is different for everybody. My friend is graduating in two days, and she asked me a few weeks ago what to expect out of post-grad life. I could have lied to her. I could have told her it’s really not that bad — that she’d be just fine (which she will be, you all will be) — but I didn’t. I told her the truth, my truth — graduating sucks. While my post-grad experience challenged me in ways I never thought possible (which it still does to this very day, that’s life), not everyone’s does. I had a unique experience — I moved to a city far from where the rest of my friends would be and where I knew almost no one, I took a job that wasn’t directly related to what I actually wanted to be doing, and I made next to nothing, so I couldn’t really afford to go and find friends in this new city I was living in. That’s my experience, it’s not everyone’s. I have friends that have thrived in their post-grad lives, and I have had friends, like myself, that have stumbled a bit. We all experience graduating differently, but we all have one thing in common — we are all doing just fine. Graduating feels daunting because it is. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. There are no summer vacations to look forward to, no momentous occasions like formals or charity events (typically), and no spring breaks. But there’s also no homework that needs to be graded, no one telling you that you can’t eat ice cream for dinner, and no requirement to do anything that you don’t at least 85% want to do. There’s a freedom in graduating that you probably won’t fully understand until a few years removed from your college days, but I promise you, it’s worth it. I was talking to another friend the other day who has had a particularly hard time since graduating. Again, she asked me about my experience. And again, I told her the truth. This time I added something I had never realized before: My post-grad life got a whole lot better once I stopped looking back at my pre-grad life. Once I accepted that there was no going back, that I wouldn’t go back even if I could, I started to embrace my new life and everything it had to offer. And things got a whole lot better. The truth about graduating is that it’s everything they tell you it’s going to be and everything they don’t tell you it’s going to be. It truly is the rest of your life, and it’s what you make of it. You will experience some of your highest-highs and your lowest-lows, and that’s exactly how it should be. You wouldn’t want it to be anything else, trust me. Happy adventuring, Kimberly Related posts: 10 Truths About Graduating College Photo Credit: Sarah Stone

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I Took A Day Off…

Kimberly — Mon, 13 May 2019 13:00:24 +0000

This weekend did not go as planned. And that’s okay. I took yesterday off. I didn’t do a single thing on my to-do list until 8:30 p.m. And, that’s okay. I have a huge problem with taking time off to do nothing. Even when I wasn’t blogging for two months, I will still working incredibly hard on personal projects and work. Doing nothing for me is such a foreign concept that I have a really hard time accepting that some days it’s exactly what I need. Both Friday and Saturday were very busy days for me. Saturday was an all-day affair with friends at Steeplechase, so I was really relying on having my Sunday free to work on blog posts and some other personal projects. I didn’t do that. Instead, I woke up at 3 a.m. and watched the entire first season of “You” on Netflix. (Side note: How does anyone romanticize Joe’s character? He’s a literal stalker that kills so many people!) I left my house to run some errands and then had dinner with my Nashville family, but other than that, I didn’t do a damn thing. And, that’s okay. Taking a “Do Nothing Day” is totally okay. Even if you have a million things you should be doing. We all need to take a break from life every once in awhile. Binge a season of a Netflix series. Read an entire book. Eat an entire pint of ice cream. The world will not stop if you stop for one day (or two, that’s okay, too). So do what you’ve got to do. Take a break. Happy relaxing, Kimberly

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